Said I would only write if something exciting happened. Well Mom aspirated today which means food went down the wrong pipe. She is fine, but I was there towards the end of the debacle which resulted in a coughing fit, headache and barf-o-rama. Then she was beat and went to bed. We (family/friends) are not allowed to feed her anymore, just for right now. Only nurses/speech until she gets stronger and better. Minor setback – no biggie. I went into VM for the medical records today. They are pulling out all of the stunts to not give them to me. Now my written faxed consent (I’ve been faxing for 3 days) wasn’t enough, had to fill out another form and the bottom line is, I still don’t have them. AND I just got a $1,300 bill for Moms medication while she was there that they didn’t submit to insurance. 😡 I didn’t want to take that place out until now. If we have anything against them, I hope to take it all the way. I have had enough of there crapola. Can’t wait to get that report.
But while I was tossing and turning last night, just wanted to pass a few thoughts about what I’ve learned the past 3 months – especially for people my age!
We aren’t kids anymore, most of us have kids! I guess it’s time to think about getting old. What that’s going to look like. Write those wills, POA’s, living wills and look at that life insurance policy if you haven’t already. All that depressing stuff you saved for later. We have to still too.
That means our parents are very old 😉 Have a conversation about them over the holidays. Especially if they are divorced. Find out if they have there stuff in order. Who is there POA. Where are those safe deposit box keys. Whatever you think you may need to know ‘someday’ because that day may be sooner than you think. (Sorry if all doomish).
Get a copy of your insurance policy from your employer ASAP.
Get involved in politics! Our healthcare system is bullshit! Learn, vote, get involved, speak up! I’m guilty of this too. Not my problem, till it is.
Since the world kinda sucks for the middle class, either be really rich and pay for your own care or really poor and have it paid for you. LOL. Just kidding…sorta. If you’re in the middle and want to keep your stuff, look into trusts and things like that to help protect your assets. Money goes real fast in a situation like this.
Finally, get along with your siblings (if you’re lucky enough to have them). One day, they will be the only ‘family’ you have left (besides the one you started – you get the drift). And when you can work together with them, in a peaceful, loving way, it can make a crappy situation a whooooooole lot easier. (Love you buddy 😉)
Holy moly! Never thought I’d be talking about this stuff! But here we are! Don’t want to be all depressing!!! Just want to throw out somethings to think about! I never would have thought about any of these things if our life wasn’t turned upside down! Have a good one! 😘
PS – look at little man in the yard today. Poor Squirt! LOL.